Songkran is in full swing. It is Thailand's new year over 3 days, where the norm is to soak everyone with water. hoses, buckets, guns!
Its a fun family atmosphere and last night, as we negotiated the streets of Khon Kaen there was a party atmosphere. Our friends and myself and Tad went to the Tiki Tiki bar, which was also frequented by "farang" foreign men. Most of them fell into the "old and overweight" category, all of them looking for that good time Thai girl.
One particular English chap took my focus as he chatted with my friend and I (or mostly my friend whom he met the day before). He was with a stunningly beautiful Thai lady, although not stood close together it was obvious. He was short, bald but average sized, and in my opinion would have the right appeal to attract the ladies.
I notice things and one thing i saw was the absence of rings. During the chat we talked about relationships and how it was with dating. It came out these people had been together for 5 years and he comes to Thailand 4-5 times a year, which is more than myself - I cant spare the time or afford it.
During conversations about visas and stuff, we talked about how difficult it is to get one. I asked him had he taken his girlfriend to England, and he said no. The bombshell reason for not doing so and game changer for me with this chap, was when he confidently announced he was married.
Maybe I am small minded, a prude or something else, and of course there could be other factors such as they could be separated or whatever, but I just stopped liking him. I know when I was going through divorce, I could not envisage being "separated" for longer than necessary. It just struck me, maybe he was in the seedier side of life which I don't want to see, or perhaps a normal chap experiencing a good time.
People do go to places for "sex" and this is a place where it could happen. I just hope he has found a lady who doesn't share similar ideas about relationships, because it is a possibility that I foresee could happen where he is not the only farang on her contact list.
Update: we met up next day while meeting Mike and Mam, at the Kosa restaurant. During overheard conversations it became obvious to me the Thai lady was unaware of his inappropriate activities and though none of my business I had an overwhelming urge to tell her to beware, because I had some nice conversation with her and detected the blissful naivety of her situation to which she was an unwilling participant. I knew the signs of two timing, having been in circumstances where I led a double life of marital deception, and saw this man's actions were the same.
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