Monday, July 27, 2015

out with our friends

We're 3 couples, a Thai wife with a farang (foreign/western) husband with a couple of coincidental things in common: all the ladies are from around the same part of Thailand, we all live in a 8 mile radius.

I met one of the men through a student who introduced me after I said i was marrying a Thai lady.  The other couple I met in April, in Thailand, during my month long holiday that included the wedding ceremony.  But I knew these two couples already hung out and were a long way along the visa route.

After wanting to make sure my wife was not too lonely, I was keen to find people who she had commonality with, and perhaps she could talk to and go out with. My plan worked out well because I found two couples who were local, and two of the ladies were already acquainted.   I also discovered a network of Thai's living here, locally, shops and the like selling everything you could want.

I did my best to make the house as friendly as possible, putting up framed photos of family and a rather nice canvas of a local (Non-Wang) temple we both visited on several occasions.

Even so after the first week of bliss, she became homesick.  Having done the formative years 11-16 away from home, I know how it feels.  At least my family were close by, 200 miles or so. Hers are 6,000 miles so not easy to keep in touch, especially with 6 or 7 hour time difference.  I had made sure there was video connection for her to talk, and this has been a godsend in all ways.  Right now she's talking to family, her nephew, sister and mother. It's 1140 here and 1740 in Thailand.

She's here in the UK for 5 and a half months, after obtaining a hard earned tourist visa.  That's another story, which you'd think was a work of fiction  however I can assure you is entirely true.  At the end she's going back to Thailand and at this point i don't have any plans.  Money is now so tight, I don't think I can even go in December, which will mark a 3 month separation period with no definite end.  At the moment, there's 2 months left, so I don't wish to think too much about that.

So, yesterday was an outing to Bristol to a washed-out thai festival. The rain poured and the people stayed away.  We left to go get lunch, and never returned.  It was a waste of time and money however the time with friends was priceless.

After that we passed by the chinese supermarket at Eastville and the ladies purchased supplies, on the way to my home where we spent an enjoyable evening drinking, eating, chatting and the ladies did karaoke to thai songs on the tablet (wifi'd to the TV).

The Ladies are planning a trip to London, which I am sure they'll enjoy seeing as it will include shopping, but will damage the bank account further.

Saturday, July 25, 2015


Taking it easy today because we're out tomorrow and it is the holidays now, the term ended yesterday and I don't work until 7th September (apart from the friday sessions at the sports centres).  Cleaned the kitchen floor with neat cleaner as it was so filthy. Emptied the car and adjusted the seating to accommodate 6 people, after all it's a 7 seater so may as well benefit from it... But, in doing so can't take my scooter now so i'll be struggling to walk around the show, because the seat takes up the loading space it gives me half a boot and the lift arm doesn't allow for this.

This morning looked at containers - or rather making a house with them.  The ideal house building situation for Thailand, except in researching the costs, it may be expensive due to being £1,000+ per container and the design I had in mind involved 12 x 20 foot and 1 x 40 foot.  The most expensive bit is the land, however this can be purchased for very little in some places.

Now sat in the office thinking what to do..One task is the end of year accounts, yet to be finished.  Or watching TV...  Pass the remote control!

Thursday, July 23, 2015

missing post

I knew the problem of having to blog on the PC would eventually lead to not blogging, and it happened yesterday.  With good intention I came home after lunch and took the Mrs with me to town to bank some cheques. We wandered round a small market, and discovered a veggie stall sold some foreign asian foods, such as that found in asian supermarkets.  Having purchased an item or two, narrowly missing on spending a fortune (prices were higher on the market) we went towards the small mall where I didn't manage to avoid spending as the Mrs bought some tops from Peacocks. We stopped in asda, I did ask if she wished to go to the car and wait but unfortunately she wanted to come in.  It was a spending frenzy that I tried desperately to avoid but didn't.  The last stop was Boots for some face cream and girly face wash stuff, which if I had realised, was cheaper in Asda!

At least she cooked a delicious thai meal for dinner after which a selection of usual activities took place, some of which i'll leave to the immagination. Suffice it was a later night, and a very tiring next day due to the late bed time!

Sunday this week we're off to Bristol with our friends (two couples) to a thai festival so thats something to look forward to.

Tuesday, July 21, 2015


Originally made back in March before going to Thailand, the appointment was rearranged twice with one time done for me and not even aware until the letter came. Having arranged it so I could go, the new time meant I had to get cover for my class and pay someone for it. 

The lift was a little wierd, had to go from level 2 to 4, then down to 3 in another lift.  Luckily level 3 reception where i could get my parking validated was also the floor I needed.  Unfortunately upon reaching the reception area for orthopaedics at the other end of a very long corridor I found out the toilet was back at the original reception!

I finally arrived at 1035am and the self serve machine told me the clinic schedule was on time for 1040am, to see an orthopaedic consultant.

My reason for wanting yet another opinion was that pain is a sign in the body and must always have a cause. Telling me otherwise, with my knowledge, is futile.  Treating it forever with ineffective and life threatening drugs was not my ideal situation and I did feel the existing surgeon doesn't want to do any more, which is not surprising considering his cock-up putting the screw into the L5 nerve on the good leg.

And before you ask, no one wants to take the case on for damages; unfortunately a 5% risk is acceptable for this type of mistake and I signed my rights away, despite the catalogue of cock-ups and ridiculous delays during my extended stay in 3 different wards!

90 minutes later I'm called in. I did find his accent a little difficult, without sounding racist, because he was pakistani/indian.  He read the GP referral and did a quick exam, then suggested there is no quick decision because he doesn't have any XRAYS or MRI details, and will need to get them from the other THREE hospitals I've been treated at.   He told me to return in 2 months!

Meantime, I am still barely working and living, mostly with moderate pain.  The medication I know is not doing me good, the celebrex is damaging my stomach and giving high BP, and the codeine is stopping me going so I take laxatives to make me go.  My guts feel bad but mostly the pain is still there, especially late evening and night.

I have to get up at 5/6am (when I wake) to take the pain meds so I can get about. I'm usually in bed by 10-1030pm on weekdays, and not much later at weekends.

Dont get me wrong, compared to before the operation when I could not walk at all, at least I can walk with difficulty, a stick and mobility scooter.

And now I limit the crap I take I am at least sane again whereas half of last year was spent in a drugged haze; I used to take family members with me to appointments so they could tell me after what was said. 

I could tell you about the June to December period but you'd probably not believe me, especially when I say I could easily have ended it all, it was all too much.

Having finished in 15 minutes, I left, not surprised at all. On the way down in the lift I pressed "2", and ended up on level 4... I had to find another lift when I realised where I was to go down to level 2.....

Monday, July 20, 2015

20th July

So, today I thought I might offer my software at a knockdown price - £60... It should be £249 for the advanced version. I did try 50% for a 2 week period and sold zero. I figure I have sold zero up to now making zero pounds in sales, so if I sell one at £60 thats more than I have ever made since launching it in 2009.  I just dont understand the lack of sales.  It's even offered for 30 days free use...

Anyway I need to make some money quickly, the fees I have taken for September's classes are way down and I am a little worried because after paying for hall hire there's  barely enough to last until November/December.

I just did a £110 mail shot (postage and photocopying) to my ex-students for 3 of the 6 classes, and this was 176 - that's the number who no longer come. I hope that maybe 10 will return, but doubt it.  The annoyance is they never tell you why they stopped although I suspect it was because I was not very well with drugs and the back operation.

Ideas on a postcard please